Comments on: Vegetables are never sad

By: cadiz12

cadiz12 — Thu, 03 Sep 2009 00:04:06 +0000

wow, my answers to your little checklist up top are exactly the same as yours. probably because i’m on day two of a job i’m doing only for benefits/steady paycheck and realize that everything i’ve slaved over for the last decade means pretty much nothing to anyone with any say over my livelihood.

if you figure out a non-therapist solution to feeling better, please let me know.

By: rdl

rdl — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 02:09:15 +0000

speaking as someone who has dealt with it most of my life. i say see a therapist, take meds, whatever it takes to get out of the funk. nothing to be ashamed of, if you had diabetes you’d take the medication. wish there wasn’t such a stigma, but i think it’s getting less cause it’s so commonplace now and frankly, who give’s a damn anyway. just my 2 cents.

sorry for the re-comment. not used to the comment link on the top of post.

By: Missy

Missy — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 00:36:39 +0000

Sounds like you need a career coach, not a therapist. Reminds me that our son took a test to see what his career proclivities were– either a lawyer or a ventriloquist as I recall! He is neither– surprise!– but if you list the things you really love and talk with someone who knows their stuff you might make some progress.

How about the career center where you did your undergrad work? They may have some suggestions to start with. Can they hook you up with a network of graduates in fields you may be considering? Is grad school while working at a non-career job to pay the rent a possibility?

I’m thinking of you– you have too much to offer to be stuck in a job you don’t like! Be assured this will make a good story some day and you will be able to help others in the same boat because of it. Maybe you should be a career counselor or a college librarian!

By: Aaron

Aaron — Mon, 24 Aug 2009 23:00:34 +0000

I thought you might enjoy a comment that didn’t feature the word “therapist”…aw, crap.

By: Megan

Megan — Mon, 24 Aug 2009 19:35:42 +0000

Finding a good therapist is hell. Some therapists just suck, and it sounds like the one you saw just might fall into that bucket.

I’m not exactly sure where it is you live in NY, but I know a terrific practice of CBTists in Nyack if you want a recommendation. I was an anxious, depressed mess for years before I found them.

By: Kristabella

Kristabella — Mon, 24 Aug 2009 19:12:20 +0000

As you know, I’m struggling with the same thing.

That kind of questionnaire at that therapist really bothers me. Because while yes, you could be just sleep deprived, it sounds like there is more to it. And as someone who battles depression, it isn’t a major life event that affects it and you don’t have to think about killing yourself to be depressed. And the sad thing is, we should be caring for the people who are depressed and not at the point of harming themselves because then that means they are close to rock bottom!

It’s hard to find a therapist. I would try again. I’m in the same boat and I didn’t like my last one and I’m nervous about trying to find another one. Because the last one told me I spent too much time online and that about killed me since blogging and interacting with my online friends is one of the few things that always brings me joy.

Hang in there! Like I said, if you ever need to talk, I’m here. Even though I’m pretty much a stranger!

I appreciate that! I have noticed that pulling myself up and just dealing with it does make me feel better, but that can be fleeting. For me, this moment it time feels so related to my specific situation. That’s part of the reason I’m blogging about it now. Getting it out feels good, and I’m not going to lie: All this support is awesome, too.

By: Courtney

Courtney — Mon, 24 Aug 2009 18:51:36 +0000

So sorry you've been feeling this way, Noelle. I've not been to therapy, but I have heard from others that it takes time to find the right therapist. Maybe it's something you could pursue. Yeah, again, not something that I want to do right now, but not ruling it out for the future.

By: Knot

Knot — Mon, 24 Aug 2009 18:21:14 +0000

It’s quite possible you are sleep deprived. And I mean you may have sleep apnea or something like that. I was a lot like you. I ended up having massive tonsil and mouth surgery and I haven’t been better. Getting a good night’s sleep is really helping. Has anyone told you that you snore? If so, it could be that.

And I say this with compassion, but could this also coincide with your monthly cycle. I notice that a lot in my 3 girls. They all get symptomatic around when the moon is full.

Sometimes I find myself getting more emotional than normal based on my cycle, Knot, understander of all things feminine… But I can tell you that this is different. This is lacking a purpose sad. The doctor and I did briefly discuss sleep problems, but I didn’t have any of the symptoms other than being tired.

By: Kate

Kate — Mon, 24 Aug 2009 17:27:30 +0000

Depression runs in my family and I’ve been battling it my whole life. I’ve been to a number of therapists and I will say this — there are a lot of not-so-good ones, but when you find a great one, he or she can make such a difference. I am still thanking my lucky stars I found Dr. Turner when I did!

It’s something to keep in mind, but I’m pretty sure I’m not in the market at the moment. I’m going to let finding a career be my therapy for the meantime.

By: lizgwiz

lizgwiz — Mon, 24 Aug 2009 16:36:11 +0000

I think 6 pounds of heirloom tomatoes would make me happy right now, if only for the time it took to eat them, though I can't think of anything else that really would. I've been sort of "blah" myself. Plus I think I broke up with my boyfriend yesterday... Think you broke up? That actually sounds worse than knowing you did.