Thank you all for your lovely advice. I probably should mention that I am the product of a loving union between a Democrat and a Republican, so I’ve seen evidence that politics needn’t be a dealbreaker. Man, it is a hard one to get over, though. I don’t want to say anything to fast too soon, but I think I like this guy. I like him enough that I was trying to think of blog nicknames for him on the way home.
Because I don’t want to jinx or otherwise ruin things, instead of telling you about last night’s date, I’d like to tell you about a date that I had back in 2002. This would be the other time I tried internet dating, before I was rescued from everlasting single-hood by Birmingham. Back then I was still living in the city, and my few forays into meeting guys in real life fizzled and burned. An actor from the play I was working on told me that he met his wife through the classifieds, and convinced me to try it out. So on to Match I went. Fun fact – back then it was free! Long live Web 1.0.
Despite the small price, there were very few good dates that came my way through Match. There Republican guy who asked me, “what’s the point of conserving the wetlands if we don’t drill for oil in them?” (That’s the kind of conservative I can’t live with…) There was the guy who agreed with everything I said, which seems nice in theory but got boring after about 5 minutes. And then there was the really cute guy who made me all nervous because he was so blatantly out of my league and I was an awkward 20-something who had never had a boyfriend.
Following the advice of all the blind-date pros, I met him at a well-lit place where you have the option to bolt at any moment. I chose the coffee shop around the corner from The Man of Action’s place. I blathered on over coffee and a scone, and even though there was lots of stammering on my part, we were getting along pretty well. After about a half hour, a friend of a friend (who I’m now happy to call a friend) came in because he also lives around the corner. At first, I admit that I was kind of superficially glad that it was him, because this friend is attractive in many ways. Some girls have actually keeled over in a swoon just from one glance. So when he came to the table and gave me a hug, it was a small coup. As I sat back down, he said, “Wow, you look great! I almost didn’t recognize you! Do you normally wear makeup?”
I don’t know if it was that was the moment where the date died, but from then on, I felt like the guy was trying to picture what I really look like and what kind of horrors he would find in the morning if we spent the night together. That put me right back into stammer mode, and a bit later we parted ways never to see each other again. In hindsight, I guess it wasn’t as bad as the blind date with the guy who took a fifteen minute call from his mom or the guy who was perfect in every way except for the fiancee in New Jersey. Even worse, my attractive friend got his tea to go, so I didn’t even get a chance to chastise him for being so thick. But don’t worry, I’ve found ways to bring it up almost every time I’ve seen him in the past 6 years.
February 6, 2008 at 2:18 pm
You can call the new guy whatever you want, but the rest of us will always be thinking “Ronpaul”.
February 6, 2008 at 2:34 pm
Your parents have different religious AND political affiliations? Wow. Good for them. Anyone who says opposites don’t attract should come visit them!
It’s true. They only fight 50% of the time.
February 6, 2008 at 2:40 pm
Oh I’ve got some classic stories of the internet dating days. From the wonderfully romantic to the tragic caveats. It definitely has it’s pros and cons. Frankly I think anything that gets you out there though is worth it.
It’s like riding a bike. You never forget, but if you stop for a while, you kind of suck.
February 6, 2008 at 2:57 pm
Why not just make his blog nickname Ron Paul?
Oh, right, that’s why.
Yeah, I’m hoping he’s all forgotten about and doesn’t need to live again over here.
February 6, 2008 at 3:36 pm
Following Mickey’s lead, I recommend naming the *no jinx* new guy Pon Raul.
I’m hoping that if he sticks around, I’ll change him enough to make that name moot.
February 6, 2008 at 5:16 pm
Internet dating is like a fun sociological and anthropological study. Except when they talk to their Mom while on a date, or when they already have a fiancee. Then it’s not quite so amusing.
It’s fun if there’s nothing at stake. But in the moment, it’s nice not to have to deal with that crap.
February 6, 2008 at 8:08 pm
Before I met my husband, I went out on a date with a guy, only to learn halfway through dinner that he had a serious girlfriend in Pittsburgh. Why do guys do that? So bizarre.
Glad to hear that things are good!
Are some guys just never satisfied? Also, why would you admit that on a date?
February 6, 2008 at 9:37 pm
Thinking of blog names is one of my favorite things about blogging; actually, I used togive any man I dated a “name” whether he made it to my blog or not.
I’m glad you had a great date, and perhaps the Ron Paul thing can eventually be forgiven (or better yet, converted).
I love nicknames! Although it drives me crazy when I can’t think of a perfect one.
February 6, 2008 at 10:32 pm
Oh god… open mouth, insert foot. That poor guy. He must have been intimidated by your makeup-ed good looks!
Yeah, I’m quite the stunner when there’s color all over my face.
February 6, 2008 at 11:43 pm
Just want 3carnations to know that not only do Noelle’s father and I have different religions and political views, but we also root for different baseball teams. And he puts mustard (as opposed to ketchup) on his burgers.
But next week we’ll be celebrating our 36th anniversary, so go figure!
P.S. We DO like the same off-beat movies, so maybe that’s what matters!
I really can’t believe you guys got over the ketchup / mustard thing. Also, I think that none of us really want to believe that Dad is a Republican.
February 7, 2008 at 12:23 am
Damn, I should really write about some of my internet dating experiences. I’d start with my ill-fated meeting of NPW, but she already covered that.
You mean it gets better than the NPW date?
February 7, 2008 at 1:18 am
Wow! I’m pissed when my husband takes a 15 minute call from his mother.
Please forgive me but your dating observations are funny to me, in the kind of way that makes me envious of your strength and fearful that I will ever have to do it again. You’re my hero.
I hope that they are funny. If I have a bad date, I’d rather turn it into a good story, instead of a waste of my time. Dating hasn’t been that bad so far. I don’t know how much more of it I can take, though. I just want to skip to the cuddling.
February 7, 2008 at 9:05 am
Elizabeth – That mustard and ketchup thing seems like the one thing that could be the real dealbreaker – Ha!
Happy upcoming anniversary! Congratulations!
I should let my mom respond to this comment, but I think she’s at work…
February 7, 2008 at 9:35 am
I already have blog nicknames picked out for two of the three men I have upcoming dates with. You know–even though I know there’s a 99% chance I will never need those nicknames. And I totally understand about the not wanting to jinx things. When a date goes reasonably OK, that’s the date I do not write about.
Good luck!
Some of them just come naturally. I think you have to be like a Native American and earn it…
February 7, 2008 at 11:30 pm
Nickname for Pon Raul: How ’bout you call him “Jinx” that way you WILL want to jinx it?
I use nicknames alot both on the blog and in real life….mainly to protect the guilty but I’m fine with that.
February 9, 2008 at 9:22 pm
I learned, the hard way, that guys on Match who only post closed-mouth smiles have really bad teeth if they have any teeth at all.